I have asked these same questions to other families that have chosen adoption. So that we don't have an awkward conversation, I will just answer them here for you.
Why are you adopting?
Jeremiah 29:11-13 For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future. Then you will call upon me and come and pray to me, and I will listen to you. You will seek me and find me when you seek me with all your heart.
God has called us all to take care of orphans and widows. Shawn and I feel called by God to adopt. Some people are confused by our decision. Once our baby gets home, we'll let you know the entire story. We don't even know what it is yet, but I can't wait to share God's glory.
How much is it going to cost?
Matthew 6:19-21 "Do not store up for yourselves treasures on earth, where moth and rust destroy, and where thieves break in and steal. But store up for yourselves treasures in heaven, where moth and rust do not destroy, and where thieves do not break in and steal. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also.
God called us to do this. He has given us everything we have, so we feel we should share it with one that doesn't. This baby will be added to my collection of priceless children. My children are my treasures. I would much rather invest in the life of another, than invest in something that dies away.
Do you worry about xyz concerning adoption?
The answer is yes. I struggle everyday. This journey is a huge test of faith. I will be honest, I don't trust God enough. I pray for more faith and trust in Him. I pray daily for His strength and direction. He knows the timing. I have to take refuge in His protection and his plans.
Matthew 6:25-27 & 33-34 "Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more important than food, and the body more important than clothes? Look at the birds of the air; they do not sow or reap or store away in barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?
But seek first his kingdom and his righteousness, and all these things will be given to you as well. Therefore do not worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will worry about itself. Each day has enough trouble of its own.
Now concerning the child's "real parents." We are his adoptive parents and any child we raise, we are also those children's "real parents." The child has biological parents and if they choose to be open and receive information about the child, I am willing to provide it. However, we are the child's "real parents." Just like it is rude to ask a mother whether she is pregnant, it is rude to ask about the child's real parents when they are standing right in front of you. And NEVER ask in front of the child/ren.
I am sure there will be other questions concerning our decision to adopt, but I will answer to my God for the plans He has in my life. My family will be blessed by adoption and hopefully we'll be a blessing to the child as well. I promise to do my best.